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I'm an orphan.....hear me whine!

3/18/2013

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Sadly, my parents are both gone which makes me a fifty something orphan.  I've joked about it for years, especially when someone comes into the shop and tells me they're in the process of hooking a rug for one of their children. I put on my sad face, pout my lower lip and whine how nice it would be to have a mom to hook a rug for me.  Of course it brings on thoughts of my own mother who would have loved to learn this wonderful craft.  She's been gone a long time, over twenty years, well before I started hooking, but I know that she would have been interested and hanging out with me in the shop, proud as Punch. 

My mother tried a few handcrafts over the years from traditional embroidery to sewing.  I'm sure she would have been thrilled with rug hooking.  I would give my right arm to have her back, to get to know her as an adult and forge a lifelong friendship.   I'm always jealous when women in their golden years say they've been out for lunch with or going to mom's house for Thanksgiving, Christmas etc.  I think, why is there no happy balance....why couldn't my mom have lived longer?   I suppose there are some people out there who would say I was lucky to have her as long as I did so I know things could be worse, but that doesn't lessen the pain I feel.  Even after all these years I find it difficult to admit she is no longer here.  I used to pretend she was still in our family home.  I would drive by and look up and imagine my parents sitting in the kitchen in their comfy recliners watching TV or sitting at the table eating dinner.  That worked for awhile but when the new owners painted the house yellow, it got harder to keep the fantasy going so I was left to deal with the reality that I was alone. 

So I kid around and say I'm an orphan.  I've told a number of people that I'm up for adoption,  you'd think someone would take me up on my offer.....I would think I'd be a catch considering the stash of wool they would inherit along with me.....I come as a package deal! What rug hooker wouldn't want a kid with a wool store, why hell, I should be fighting them off in droves!  

I guess it's all fun and games until someone gets hurt or it becomes awkward.  One lovely lady said adoption wasn't an option but she would gladly hook a rug for me.  So the joke backfired, I was only kidding and now someone was offering to hook a rug and I'm not the kind of person who can accept gifts graciously.  Through circumstances beyond my control, I've been treated rather badly by people in my family and there have not been any acts of kindness without strings attached, so I have no personal education to draw on when someone wants to do something nice;  it goes against my grain.   I've only learned how to be a  giver, not a taker, I like being generous, it gives me pleasure, it's well within my comfort range, but the reverse almost leaves me paralyzed with awkwardness. 

The gift giver was Jean Morse, that sweetie I can't seem to stop talking about.  But even with her,  the fun of joking around crashed to a halt and I felt terrible that I might have somehow bullied her into hooking a rug for me.  She didn't see it that way but I had a lump to swallow.  No matter how much I refused, she insisted and I was mortified.   I tried to let that lead brick drop, but she kept bringing it up and insisted I give her a pattern and dyed wool so she would hook it.   She wore me down and quite frankly, it might have been the nicest thing anyone had ever done for me up to that point in my life; maybe it was a turning point and time to feel worthy of someone's kindness.  Pathetic sounding I know, but it is what it is.  Not all familial relationships are warm and fuzzy.  So I designed a rug for hubby's study and dyed up the colours to match the room and Jean started the rug.  

I've said many times before how much I cared for and admired Jean and I tried to bury the guilt of goading her into hooking the rug for me.  It was never my intent to put anyone out, I just like to be funny.    But you know, I think she really liked me as much as I liked her and I just had to accept graciously that someone was willing to do a nice thing for me.    So that makes Jean's gift an even more treasured memory and every time I walk on or look at the rug I think of her.  How she liked me enough to spend months working on a gift for me with no strings attached.  That single act of kindness left a lasting impression and maybe I walk a little taller because of it.  I've cooled the jets on whining about being an orphan but every now and then I bring it out and dust it off.  I am a bit of a kidder and that will never change, but I draw the line on the sad face and pouty lip.

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Nautical Runner was a lot of fun to  colour plan.  My hubby is big on sailing and his office is filled with half models and artwork of things on or around the water.  He had a large stained compass rose on the floor already but a hooked compass design wouldn't be over the top and the stylized sea monsters added another feature to balance out the rug and the room.  I had originally made a mood board but that is long gone so I put together a few chips and swatches to show the colour plan.  Taking the colour palette from the study walls, trim and upholstery fabric made for easy choices and I invented dye formulas to match.  Ganache was a new colour I created for the rope work and compass interior.  Rust was also new and the Army green was a staple.  I combined all three colours in a spot dye formula called Burnished Autumn for the compass background to tie it all together. 

The Army green is used as three values, lighter for the background and medium and dark for the compass points and trim around the border. The third and darkest value was dyed over herringbone to add a bit of texture. 


The Ganache rope was a 6 value swatch all dyed over natural.   I used Antique Black for all the outlines, outside border of the compass and the outer border around the rug.  Jean loved the colours so much that she hooked her next project using the leftovers.   

The rust was also a three value swatch, with herringbone to add texture to the stylized sea monsters and striped border.   It was with great pride that I positioned the rug in front of the French doors in its forever home.  Sorry the pictures are not the best but you can see the rug is an important addition to the room. 

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Sorry the picture is so dark. The rug is on the left side in front of the French doors.
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The rug is on the bottom right, in front of the French doors.
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Trish
3/18/2013 04:40:24 am

I feel the same way about my Mom. She's been gone 23 years! She too would have loved rug hooking or at least would have sat beside me knitting while we both create together. She came to crafting later in life but we both enjoyed a creative streak. I always feel she's near but sometimes near doesn't count.

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Christine Little
3/18/2013 05:17:36 am

I know what you mean. Every time you feel down or get sick, or have something exciting to share, it's a harsh reality not having her there.

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Adena Clark
3/18/2013 10:09:42 am

Christine, this is the mat my oldest daughter picked out a couple of weeks ago. She has a nautical-themed dining room and really loved it so it's next on my (never-ending) list!

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Christine
3/18/2013 11:35:32 am

Can't wait to see it!

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Adena Clark
3/18/2013 11:56:59 am

Have to finish the Celtic Snowflake and the lawn chairs first - :)

Diana
3/19/2013 04:16:32 am

You brought tears to my eyes about losing your precious mother. Mine died 1 year ago on St Patricks Day 2012. I miss her so much that sometimes I can't stand it...every day I think about picking up the phone to call her. Shortly before she went to Heaven, we talked about learning to do rug hooking...it fascinated both of us and was one of the few "crafts" we did not do together. I bought a kit from my local quilt shop but have not started it yet...my heart is not ready yet...

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Laura link
3/20/2013 08:06:05 am

My mother died in 2007, but it still seems to me that she is still around and I can call her and tell her about whatever is going on, then I remember that she's gone. I'm a 55 year old orphan, I know how you feel! My sisters never learned any crafts from my mother, but I learned how to sew, quilt, braid rugs, crochet, knit, and embroider. My daughter never wanted to learn, but hopefully my little granddaughter will want to. What better way to honor my mother's memory.

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